Now, before you start burning books (which, history has shown, is never a good idea), let's take a breath. You said her porn habit was making you uncomfortable, so you asked her to stop. Fair enough. But then she pivoted to books, and now that's an issue too? Buddy, if you keep banning every outlet that turns her on, you're not going to have a horny wife, you're going to have a resentful one.

Well, I was wrong. Every night before bed she's reading this stuff. I flicked through one lying on her bedside table to see what all the hype was about, and they are pure filth. Group sex, cheating, Vendita diretta piastrelle men with gigantic you-know-whats. And the worst part is, she reads these books religiously and barely initiates sex with me anymore.

One thing I took away from this 'research' was that in every video the man looked like he was having a jolly good time, and the woman, while not receiving much in terms of stimulation, did appear to enjoy being in charge. Quite the gender reversal, if you will.

I'll be honest here, the way you defensively worded your question already has me rolling up my sleeves. So before you bring this up with her, rethink your approach. (The only thing you need to 'ban' is the word 'ban' from your vocabulary).

But for the record, just because you let your wife peg you, certainly doesn't mean you aren't straight. I mean, it's your wife doing it to you, so you're having a very 'straight' time, just in a, er, slightly different way.

Here's the thing about fantasies: just because she shared it with you doesn't mean you have to do it. However, I also wouldn't recommend burying your head in the sand and pretending she didn't say anything either.

And if you really want to test him, throw in an unexpected question, like, 'When did you get them, again?' If he's lying, he'll probably hesitate. If he's telling the truth, he'll answer without a second thought.

As you watch, ask you wife why it turns her on. Rather than judging her, get curious instead. What she has to say may surprise you. You certainly don't have to say yes but perhaps you could find a compromise - like letting her take the lead once in a while?

If you have any type of concerns concerning where and how you can make use of ceramiche sassuolo, you can contact us at our web site. But there's no denying that it is his reaction to you confronting him that makes this suspicious. The stammering, the blushing, the awkward laughter. That's not the confident energy of a man with nothing to hide.

If you're quietly judging her a little for her kink - or just a little curiosity - then let me reassure you I've heard of many upstanding individuals who enjoy being pegged (including royalty!) so it's actually not that outside the box. 

Do you know how many men would kill for a wife with a libido like hers? The issue here isn't the books - or the porn, for that matter - but the fact her fantasies are lighting her fire, but you're not the one she's turning to.

Now I can't stop thinking about it. If he hates condoms so much, why does he have a fresh supply hidden away? I want to believe there's some logical explanation, but my gut is screaming at me that something isn't right. Is this as bad as I think it is?

And one final rant - why are women still arm-wrestling blokes into wearing a small piece of very thin rubber on their peckers that prevent pregnancies and STDs? You know what's more uncomfortable than a few seconds of awkward fumbling as he puts it on? A very awkward conversation with the doctor later on.

If you want to get to the bottom of this, try a trick body-language experts swear by: the 'reverse recall' technique. Liars tend to rehearse their stories in order, so if you ask them to explain things backwards - like where they got the condoms, when they put them in the car, and why they look new despite being 'old' - they are more likely to stumble.

She was getting really secretive about it and it was impacting our sex life (she wanted to do things I wasn't comfortable with, like choking, and was taking ages to climax). I figured we could both do with a detox, and she agreed.

I would suggest taking a less judgmental flick through those smutty books and see what's getting her hot under the collar. For all you know, the remedy could be as simple as growing a beard (or is that just my fantasy?)

Now, before we go full detective mode, let's consider the (slim) chance there is an innocent explanation. Maybe a mate left them there. Maybe he grabbed them ages ago and forgot. Maybe his mum put them in there for encouragement (not all parents want to be grandparents!) or he's planning some grand romantic gesture where he suddenly decides to love condoms just for you (okay, that one's a stretch).

Maybe she's craving something a little more adventurous than the standard routine you seem comfortable with. Maybe she's just in a phase where the fantasy is more exciting than the reality (trust me, plenty of us fantasise about things we'd never actually do). Either way, the solution isn't banning anything; it's understanding.

This might sound a little bonkers, but why don't you suggest watching a porno involving pegging? Choose the video wisely, mind. Go for a hot couple who look like they're having a fun, and avoid anything weird where the bloke is oinking like a pig.