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My Husband And I Are Going Through An Endless Dry Spell

GinoHillyard263582025.04.03 14:26조회 수 12댓글 0

Dear Jane,

My husband and I have been married for around five years and, until recently, everything had been great.

A few months ago, however, my husband stopped making any effort to initiate sex. We used to enjoy a fairly active sex life - usually being intimate at least three times a week.

Now we haven't had sex in months, not even on Valentine's Day, and not even when I try my hardest to get things going (I put on sexy lingerie and it didn't work!)

Then, last week, I clocked why we're having this awful dry spell, and I'm more upset than ever.

He was showering and I was making us dinner. I decided to turn on the Bluetooth speaker and listen to some music but it automatically connected to his iPhone. To my horror, porn started blaring out at full volume.

I quickly switched the speakers off, but I then started eavesdropping whenever he showered to see if it was a one-off or a regular occurrence.

Sure enough, each time he took a shower, I heard the porn quietly playing in the bathroom.




Dar Jane: My husband and I are going through a dry spell. I've just realized the depressing reason why.



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Dear Jane...
Frankly, I'm scared that my husband is addicted to porn, and worried about what this will do to our relationship. 

And Kontol what if the content he is watching is violent? Might he start mistreating me in the bedroom?

I have so many questions, but I haven't dared confront him yet. I'm not quite sure what to say.

From,

Pause the Porn




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Dear Pause the Porn,

I'm going to start with the end of your letter where you assume the porn he's watching is violent and will lead to you being mistreated in the bedroom.

There is no reason to think this.

You're also assuming that your husband is addicted. And while that could indeed be possible, I'd remind you that his watching habit appears to be new behavior.

You have a golden opportunity to address his use of porn before it gets out of control. So I'm wondering why you haven't been able to talk to him about it.

If you are feeling in any way ashamed then please don't.

As for not knowing what to say: tell him exactly what you have told me.

He may try and deflect with anger and blame you for monitoring him, but ignore that and keep bringing the conversation back to the point in hand: his new porn habit.

Something is amiss with your sex life and you have now discovered his secret.

Keep judgment out of the discussion. The issue is less his use of porn and more his loss of interest in you.

You have, not unreasonably, deduced that the two are linked. But there might be something else at play here. Whatever the reason, a lack of intimacy in a marriage this young is problematic.

I suggest that you seek counselling together to determine how to deal with this.


 


Dear Jane,

About two years ago, my mother asked me if she could temporarily move in with me.

At first, it was fine, but now it's becoming too much and she has long overstayed her welcome.

My mother is in her mid-60s and divorced. When she first asked to live with me, she said it would only be for a year and that's what my husband agreed to.

Now we are on year two and it's affecting my marriage.

We have a small house with three kids and tensions are rising - especially when my mother offers unsolicited parenting advice.

Last week I found out that she has run into financial difficulties and is being sued by a creditor for non-payment.

Hugely embarrassing, I ended up being served with her court papers in front of my neighbors!

Now I've discovered she is trying to stay with me longer. I say discovered because she didn't ask me but instead roped my children into convincing me and their dad to let her stay on.

It's revealed a side to my mother that I really don't like.

She is wildly irresponsible with money and complains about not having a male companion but doesn't make any attempts to get out there.

I'm sick of her playing the victim. She makes subtle comments about how she 'doesn't know how she will get by' if she moves out of our home.

Of course, I love her very much, but I fear our living arrangement is ruining our relationship.

From,

Daughter Dread
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